Commitment Issues & How to Deal with them

First, let’s talk about what commitment issues are. The word commitment fear generally means the apprehension of committing with one person, which can spill into your daily life and career. It can have profound implications for your future. These issues can stem from various factors, including abuse, infidelity, lack of trust, and poor childhood examples, including a parents’ divorce or marital problems.

Childhood experiences have long-lasting effects and shape a person’s view of relationships. Children with overbearing or unresponsive parents develop emotional dependence issues in their adult lives.

 

 

What are some signs of commitment phobia?

Our culture may also have something to do with fear or reluctance to commit to a relationship. The person may have unrealistic expectations and look for the next best thing, which is hurtful and not conducive to being in a relationship. Too many career or relationship choices make it easy for the individual to choose avoidance.

*Are you avoiding a serious relationship? You may be casually dating, and the other person may have feelings for you, or worse, you can start having feelings for them! The only option you see is to exit the relationship. *You don’t plan a future with the person you are dating. Yes, casually dating and enjoying it is ok, but at some point, they will be looking for you to decide your long-term status. If this is a relationship pattern, you may be avoiding a commitment. *Do you question everything? It is normal to have questions, but it is something different when you find yourself at a crossroads with your feelings. When you aren’t enjoying the process, these might be signs of a phobia if you ask yourself ‘what’s next?’, “am I ready for this?’ and ‘do I want things to succeed?’

 

 

Spending time

Do you avoid making plans with your partner?

You may not be into the person as much, but let’s say you enjoy spending time with this person. Making big plans for the future causes stress and anxiety for you. It would mean you have to be somewhere on a specific date, and you are uncomfortable with that.
Some people have an unresolved emotional attachment to their family. With these high levels of passion, they may feel guilty starting a new relationship because it will impede their family relationships. And on the flip side of things, you may feel emotionally unattached in any relationship. For a healthy relationship to flourish, demonstrating to your partner that you are in it with them and reassuring them that you are in it is essential. But if you are emotionally unattached, you wouldn’t care if they were in your life. The emotional connection may be different from your current partner. Yet, there may be a deeper reason if you struggle with relationships.

 

Communication between partners

Communication between partners is crucial, but the words used determine the perception that you’re afraid of committing. Maybe’s and probably in relationships point to hesitation to commit to anything. Steering away from being labeled as being in a relationship and not using the terms of endearment are clear signs and may make your partner rethink their choice.
Being in a relationship can make a person feel trapped. Uttering those terms of endearment or even the idea of getting married can make a commitment-phobe shudder. What is security and happiness to your partner can make you feel anxious, trapped, and overwhelmed. If your partner injures you, you may be scared to commit. People with this phobia assume things will fail in whatever relationship they are in, so they don’t put much effort into it. Sadly, they are sabotaging their chances of a great career and opportunities with someone they meet with whom things could work out.
You usually have superficial relationships and are most comfortable in small social groups because developing solid and meaningful relationships may be challenging.

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Focusing on yourself isn’t such a bad thing. (See article: The Single Life and its Benefits for You!). However, suppose you find it hard to give your partner the attention they need to help balance everyday tasks or show emotional support. In that case, the long-term commitment will suffer by creating resentment because of your self-centered behavior. If any of these describe you in any way, how can these or future relationships be repaired? If this is your partner, look for red flags, and talk things out. Understand your issues, be transparent, look for support, don’t try to change what you can’t, and try doing things differently.
Be honest about what’s going on. Be vulnerable and specific as to what gives you anxiety and fear. If you need to bring in a therapy expert to mediate, that can also be helpful. Like anything, practice makes, well, not perfect, but little steps accumulate to helpful. Your muscle memory of taking small steps leads to big rewards! Take your partner on a Friday date, go for walks, and make affectionate advances. Slow and steady make for the beginnings of a healthy commitment.

Love, without fear!

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